THE PURSUIT - with Patrick Kerwin
THE PURSUIT - with Patrick Kerwin

Episode 2 · 11 months ago

Cracking the Code on Happiness. Why Pursuing Your Potential is Essential.


In this episode we revisit Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and how NOT pursuing our dreams may block us from happiness and fulfillment.
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Hey, it's Patrick Kerwin and welcometo the pursuit podcast, where we give you practical tips on chasing your dreams, awakening your potential and living and extraordinary life. Hey, just quick headsup for we get started. In these special audio recordings of our Youtube series, you may hear me reference images on screen that you can't see or teacha lesson with a drawing or diagram. All I ask is that, inyour beautiful imagination, my handwriting actually looks legible and my doodles look, youknow, like a professional emitter to them. Cool, you're the best. Now, if you want to join our growing community of entrepreneurs, creatives andpeople following their inner fire, you'll find the links below in the show notes. I'm so thankful you've chosen to spend some time learning and growing with ustoday. Without further ADO, enjoy today's episode. Welcome back to the pursuit. We're focus on helping you awaken your potential and achieve your dreams. MyName is Patrick Kurwen and today we're going back to one of my personal dialings. We're going back to humanistic psychology and...

Abraham Maslough and his hierarchy. Oris pyramid of need. Now, you may have encountered this way back inlike high school or psychoone class, but it's worth looking back into. Andwhat I really want to focus is the very tippy top of that pyramid.We're going to be looking at the need that we all have for self actualization. Be Looking at what that really means and this one big idea that wecan extrapolate from what Maslow taught that gives us the key to unlocking our ownhappiness and greatness for the rest of our lives. Now, to help digin this, I want to do a quick refresher on these pyramid of needsin the first place. So let's jump in in this. So if youcan see here, if this looks at all familiar to this is Abraham aslow'shigher key of needs. That's called the hierarchy of needs. Just as arefresher, because his idea was that all human beings have the same core needs. What eventually became human needs psychology. And he said, well, we'reall kind of wired the same way and... a base level, what hecalled the basic needs were what we came to understand is the basic needs.You have this idea that all human beings. What we need is we need tohave like food, shelter, water, the basics. Right, you andI are having this great conversation, hopefully around our own personal development growth, but if the ceilings not going to hold or if there's a fire somewhere, boop we go. We go right back to our core needs, andthat's the thing that matters most. So we have these core needs, butonce we have those met again in the idea, we then move up tothe second tier of net of needs, is our psychological needs. Okay,so these are our USAID s, like psyche needs. These are the needswe have of our need for love, the need for belonging within a tribeor a group, that, additionally, the need for own sense of selfesteem, to need to see ourselves grow, the need to accomplish and achieve.I mean, if you look back...

...through all of human history, Ithink you can see history books just right here in these first four areas,human beings seeking food, shelter and water. And once we've gotten that, nowwe're looking for greater senses of community and to cut togetherness and collaboration,with love and belonging and harmony amongst each other. But also this need togrow. We have this potential within ourselves and we kind of this need tosee that growth happen. When we're stale or stuck, it hurts us.And the reason it hurts us because we have in need to grow and change. But those are the means of our psychology or the psyche, and ourbasic needs. But to me, the most interesting thing that mass well broughtto the table was the idea of self actualization. Here's how he said it. If you deliberately plan and being less than what you are capable of being, then I warn you, you will be very unhappy for the rest ofyour life. He actually goes further to...

...say this. I'm musician must makemusic, and artist must paint a poet must write if they are to beultimately at peace with themselves what a human can be. They must be see. This gives us a crucial key on what it takes to live a happyand thriving life. And when you look at self actualization, what you're lookingat is this idea of potentiality in all human beings, and I I firmlybelieve, personally, maybe you connect with me on this, there is thiscreative and spiritual force within each every one of us and it calls us toa new place. When we respond to that call to adventure, when weare in aligned with who we truly are, there's joy and we're disconnected, there'spain. But to illustrate that a little further, I'm going to showyou this. Here's basically what self actualization...

...says, that there is this potential. Okay, whether that's your gifts, your strengths, puts for strengths,your abilities, a for abilities, you have this something in you that you'recapable of doing, and then over here you have a life that you live. And where there is a gap, most people have said, coaches likemyself always say this all the time, that wherever the gap pain is inthe gap between where you are and where you want to be, what you'recapable of and what you are the life that you want and the life thatyou deserve and should be living, and that gap is what keeps us upat night. Let's say you've got person a. They have these gifts,strengths and abilities and they don't use them. They go down a career path theyfeel is just prescribe to them or...

...were just the low hanging fruit infront of them and they stay there. They have their basic needs of safetyand physiology met, but they never really seek that greater community that would enliventhem. They never really move up the philosophical or literal lateral life and theythey have the basic needs met but nothing higher. This person is living alife by default instead of a life by design. But let's look at personbe, same gifts, same strength, same abilities as person a. Theyhave the safety and physiology needs met. Let's just say those can come andgo with life. Let's say they got those and they've, out of theirown design and will and intention, have gotten around some good people where theyfeel like they belong long, people who line with them on values and philosophyand as a result they've been around good people, they've learned some valuable lessons. They've grown. They shown growth.

They see they are themselves. Theylook there, they see someone who wasn't the same last year or this yearthey were last year. They look over the last five to ten years orlife and every year they look back and say, Oh, I was afool last year, because they're constantly growing and themselves and their career, intheir life, they are pursuing their potential and as a result they are happy, they are thriving, and not saying they don't have challenges. Anyone climbingthe mountain of life will tell you the challenges don't go away and sometimes theyintensify, but there's a smile on their face at the end of the daywhen they put their head on a pillow at night and say I did itor I'm doing it, I'm on the path towards my greatness, and inthat moment is a smile that you just can't take from somebody. So Iagree that what a human being could be, they must be, not just fortheir own happiness but for the great effect it has in other people,because when you see someone who's lit up like that, when you see someonewho's passionate and doing what they love,...

...that's going to be a person that'sgonna be a mentor for you, that's gonna be a person who is goingto be an example for you. We all need someone to aim for andinspire us. So my challenge you would be, if this view, believethis is true, that what we can be we must be, then Iwould challenge you, my friend, to answer this question. Where's that gapfor you? Where is that gap? Is it in your health gap foryou that's hurting you right now? Is it a financial gap that's hurting youright now? Is it a relationship gap that's leaving you with that hit inyour stomach that says this can't be all that there is? Or is therea business maybe that you've been thinking like, Oh, I've been thinking about thismom on this for year. I just I wish I had the courageto act on it. Whatever it is for you, I would encourage youthis day, starting right now, to decide at that gap is going toclose for you live a life that is not just in the line with yourselfand your greatest joy, but something that inspires other people to do the same. So Ay, if you like this... and you got something good outof it, maybe just found you the right time. Greatest Way to saythank you. Hit that like button. If you want to be a partof our community enjoy what we're doing, least hit that subscribe so getting themy name is Patrick Kerwhin. This has another episode of pursuit and, asalways, I want to give you an ending cheers. If the fire withinbe the happiest heights and the road you travel aligned with lights we see nexttime.

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