THE PURSUIT - with Patrick Kerwin
THE PURSUIT - with Patrick Kerwin

Episode 2 · 1 year ago

Cracking the Code on Happiness. Why Pursuing Your Potential is Essential.


In this episode we revisit Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and how NOT pursuing our dreams may block us from happiness and fulfillment.
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Hey, it's Patrick Kerwin and welcome to the pursuit podcast, where we give you practical tips on chasing your dreams, awakening your potential and living and extraordinary life. Hey, just quick heads up for we get started. In these special audio recordings of our Youtube series, you may hear me reference images on screen that you can't see or teach a lesson with a drawing or diagram. All I ask is that, in your beautiful imagination, my handwriting actually looks legible and my doodles look, you know, like a professional emitter to them. Cool, you're the best. Now, if you want to join our growing community of entrepreneurs, creatives and people following their inner fire, you'll find the links below in the show notes. I'm so thankful you've chosen to spend some time learning and growing with us today. Without further ADO, enjoy today's episode. Welcome back to the pursuit. We're focus on helping you awaken your potential and achieve your dreams. My Name is Patrick Kurwen and today we're going back to one of my personal dialings. We're going back to humanistic psychology and...

Abraham Maslough and his hierarchy. Or is pyramid of need. Now, you may have encountered this way back in like high school or psychoone class, but it's worth looking back into. And what I really want to focus is the very tippy top of that pyramid. We're going to be looking at the need that we all have for self actualization. Be Looking at what that really means and this one big idea that we can extrapolate from what Maslow taught that gives us the key to unlocking our own happiness and greatness for the rest of our lives. Now, to help dig in this, I want to do a quick refresher on these pyramid of needs in the first place. So let's jump in in this. So if you can see here, if this looks at all familiar to this is Abraham aslow's higher key of needs. That's called the hierarchy of needs. Just as a refresher, because his idea was that all human beings have the same core needs. What eventually became human needs psychology. And he said, well, we're all kind of wired the same way and... a base level, what he called the basic needs were what we came to understand is the basic needs. You have this idea that all human beings. What we need is we need to have like food, shelter, water, the basics. Right, you and I are having this great conversation, hopefully around our own personal development growth, but if the ceilings not going to hold or if there's a fire somewhere, boop we go. We go right back to our core needs, and that's the thing that matters most. So we have these core needs, but once we have those met again in the idea, we then move up to the second tier of net of needs, is our psychological needs. Okay, so these are our USAID s, like psyche needs. These are the needs we have of our need for love, the need for belonging within a tribe or a group, that, additionally, the need for own sense of self esteem, to need to see ourselves grow, the need to accomplish and achieve. I mean, if you look back...

...through all of human history, I think you can see history books just right here in these first four areas, human beings seeking food, shelter and water. And once we've gotten that, now we're looking for greater senses of community and to cut togetherness and collaboration, with love and belonging and harmony amongst each other. But also this need to grow. We have this potential within ourselves and we kind of this need to see that growth happen. When we're stale or stuck, it hurts us. And the reason it hurts us because we have in need to grow and change. But those are the means of our psychology or the psyche, and our basic needs. But to me, the most interesting thing that mass well brought to the table was the idea of self actualization. Here's how he said it. If you deliberately plan and being less than what you are capable of being, then I warn you, you will be very unhappy for the rest of your life. He actually goes further to...

...say this. I'm musician must make music, and artist must paint a poet must write if they are to be ultimately at peace with themselves what a human can be. They must be see. This gives us a crucial key on what it takes to live a happy and thriving life. And when you look at self actualization, what you're looking at is this idea of potentiality in all human beings, and I I firmly believe, personally, maybe you connect with me on this, there is this creative and spiritual force within each every one of us and it calls us to a new place. When we respond to that call to adventure, when we are in aligned with who we truly are, there's joy and we're disconnected, there's pain. But to illustrate that a little further, I'm going to show you this. Here's basically what self actualization...

...says, that there is this potential. Okay, whether that's your gifts, your strengths, puts for strengths, your abilities, a for abilities, you have this something in you that you're capable of doing, and then over here you have a life that you live. And where there is a gap, most people have said, coaches like myself always say this all the time, that wherever the gap pain is in the gap between where you are and where you want to be, what you're capable of and what you are the life that you want and the life that you deserve and should be living, and that gap is what keeps us up at night. Let's say you've got person a. They have these gifts, strengths and abilities and they don't use them. They go down a career path they feel is just prescribe to them or...

...were just the low hanging fruit in front of them and they stay there. They have their basic needs of safety and physiology met, but they never really seek that greater community that would enliven them. They never really move up the philosophical or literal lateral life and they they have the basic needs met but nothing higher. This person is living a life by default instead of a life by design. But let's look at person be, same gifts, same strength, same abilities as person a. They have the safety and physiology needs met. Let's just say those can come and go with life. Let's say they got those and they've, out of their own design and will and intention, have gotten around some good people where they feel like they belong long, people who line with them on values and philosophy and as a result they've been around good people, they've learned some valuable lessons. They've grown. They shown growth.

They see they are themselves. They look there, they see someone who wasn't the same last year or this year they were last year. They look over the last five to ten years or life and every year they look back and say, Oh, I was a fool last year, because they're constantly growing and themselves and their career, in their life, they are pursuing their potential and as a result they are happy, they are thriving, and not saying they don't have challenges. Anyone climbing the mountain of life will tell you the challenges don't go away and sometimes they intensify, but there's a smile on their face at the end of the day when they put their head on a pillow at night and say I did it or I'm doing it, I'm on the path towards my greatness, and in that moment is a smile that you just can't take from somebody. So I agree that what a human being could be, they must be, not just for their own happiness but for the great effect it has in other people, because when you see someone who's lit up like that, when you see someone who's passionate and doing what they love,...

...that's going to be a person that's gonna be a mentor for you, that's gonna be a person who is going to be an example for you. We all need someone to aim for and inspire us. So my challenge you would be, if this view, believe this is true, that what we can be we must be, then I would challenge you, my friend, to answer this question. Where's that gap for you? Where is that gap? Is it in your health gap for you that's hurting you right now? Is it a financial gap that's hurting you right now? Is it a relationship gap that's leaving you with that hit in your stomach that says this can't be all that there is? Or is there a business maybe that you've been thinking like, Oh, I've been thinking about this mom on this for year. I just I wish I had the courage to act on it. Whatever it is for you, I would encourage you this day, starting right now, to decide at that gap is going to close for you live a life that is not just in the line with yourself and your greatest joy, but something that inspires other people to do the same. So Ay, if you like this... and you got something good out of it, maybe just found you the right time. Greatest Way to say thank you. Hit that like button. If you want to be a part of our community enjoy what we're doing, least hit that subscribe so getting the my name is Patrick Kerwhin. This has another episode of pursuit and, as always, I want to give you an ending cheers. If the fire within be the happiest heights and the road you travel aligned with lights we see next time.

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