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THE PURSUIT - with Patrick Kerwin
THE PURSUIT - with Patrick Kerwin

Episode 4 · 1 year ago

Unlock the Power of the Unconscious Mind | How a Simple Practice of Pausing Can Transform Our Lives

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In this episode we explore how to access emotions in our unconscious mind, and how learning to face them builds our spiritual muscles.
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Hey, it's Patrick Kurwen and welcome to the pursuit podcast, where we give you practical tips on chasing your dreams, awakening your potential and living in extraordinary life. Hey, just quick heads up for we get started. In these special audio recordings of our Youtube series, you may hear me reference images on screen that you can't see or teach a lesson with a drawing or diagram. All I ask is that, in your beautiful imagination, my handwriting actually looks legible and my doodles look, you know, like a professional animated to them. Cool, you're the best. Now, if you want to join our growing community of entrepreneurs, creatives and people following your inner fire, you'll find the links below in the show notes. I'm so thankful you've chosen to spend some time learning and growing with us today. Without further ADO, enjoy today's episode. Hey, welcome to another episode of the pursuit we help you awaken your potential and achieve your dreams. My Name is Patrick Kurwent and today we're digging into the unconscious way where I hold on. Before you get scared off...

...by your own shadows, let me just unpack for a second what we mean by the unconscious mind or the skeletons and our closet. And then I W I hope for you today is would you leave with this, is some practical ideas of how to discover and tap into those areas and help steer your life in the direction that you want to go. So let's begin first, but just some under standings of some concepts of what we mean by the unconscious. So, as you can see here this is just a crude model here, but the idea is that most of the information that's around us. I'm not going to use a percentage, but if you know like ninety percent or something that. But but, Geordi, the information that we process in our brain every day is unconscious information, whether that's our heartbeating on a physical body sense or emotions or thoughts that are happening in the moment in the busyness of life. A lot of that's kind of processing, as we call like in the background. So that's that can be considered a lot of what's unconscious. Some...

...of what's unconscious is not just because, you know, we're moving fast and things are flying by us. Some of what's unconscious because we don't want to see it we don't want to feel it. It's the things that we run from and that information that we repress often becomes some of the forces that end up driving our life. So, in this regard, then, this little sliver here is what's conscious. This is the information that we are either aware of in our thinking, we're aware of it's happening in our body, or aware of what we're doing with our actions. This level of awareness or insight is what we really can change our lives. But whatever gets put and that the spotlight, whatever we see now we have to face it. This is why I personally believe that moving helping make the unconscious conscious, that pausing and turning toward fear or turning towards any of the information that we hide from ourselves...

...were simply unaware of. That itself is spiritual work. It's an act of courage and bravery, and the more we turn towards these things, the more kind of spiritual courage or spiritual muscle we develop in order to handle life better. So this what I'm about to tell you today, isn't just some psychological teaching on the subconscious of the unconscious mind. What this is is practice for real life and facing the things that we often run from, because truth is what we no longer run from. Can no longer run us and we're finally free. So welcome to today. Let's go a little further into this. So we've kind of labeled and understand the conscious and the unconscious. I hopefully it's again, it's a crude definition, but at least I'll get us started. What I really want to focus on today is a practice. So here's the simple accready, and I want to talk to you about let's talk about...

...being a pro at living the simple structure here. Is this the first thing you want to do? If you if you want to access this unconsciou just parts is you want to pause? I can tell you from personal experience that the time out the pad, that interrupting the thoughts while it's going that the interruption of the breath in between the emotion while it's happening. This can be some of the hardest personal development and spiritual work that you can do, probably some of the worst rewarding things you can do. Is How do you become the center of the eye of the storm? How, in the middle of everything spiraling around you, can you just like cut through it and go. That ability that you train yourself to do is that spiritual muscle. It's ability to time out, to pause, to stop, whether it's a physical stop, like you're in the middle of a behavior and you're stopping yourself, and whether that pause is a five second pause or a fifteen minute pause, it doesn't matter. The power of the pause and teaching yourself that you can pierce...

...through these experiences and breathe. That is a pivotal awakening inside yourself that that's something that you can do. So that is the pause. Now I want to just kind of outline these and that can go deeper into this. But the second stage. Okay, so, Patrick, I paused, I've taken two breaths. Now what? Well, a lot of people stop there. They think that just breathing is the magic alone, but that's not actually what actually transforms you. The second thing we want to do because we want to reconnect. We want to reconnect to our body, to the experience. Often we are disconnected. This is a return towards connection. So if it is that you're in the middle of an emotion and you've you've gone it, done your time out, you've paused, okay, you just kind of take it. I'm just going to take ten seconds on this before I go any farther. Just maybe even two or three of these. Okay, after that,...

...you want to reconnect. You want to connect to the body, like what am I experiencing right now? These are when you reconnect. The practice is essentially inner dialog. You're asking yourself questions. What am I feeling right now? Where am I feeling that feeling right now? What is going on? What are the thoughts that are tracing across my mind right now? It is any of that true? You want to reconnect that. Where do you want to get closer, not further, closer to the experience? And I want to acknowledge something right now. Yes, I can hear some of you saying the Patrick. In that moment, all I want to do is get away from it. All I want to do is yell at my child and make them stop. All I want to do in that moment is get out of it, run from it. Yes, I hear you. We all experience that tension in the moment. This is a practice of slowing down. But if this isn't like a three minute thing, this is happening right like this, in the moment, you just pausing. You're tuning in. You're not...

...tuning out, you're tuning in, whatever that is, tuning into your thoughts or your behavior, your feelings in the body. You're reconnecting. As you reconnect there's going to be an invitation to either face that thing that's coming from the unconscious and into the conscious space. And, as you see it, you have a choice. You can either close to it or you can do the third thing. You can open up to it. You're going to be opening the door of your mind, opening the door of your heart, opening the door to new possibilities of what could be. So let me just give you a give me help bring this to life a little bit, and then I want to give you a challenge and a practice to put this into your life. So, for example, and now I'll tell you a real I mean, this is I'm a dad of to this is a real thing that happens in my life. You're in the middle of trying to do homework with your kids or something that just pushes all your buttons right there. You say...

...you've got to do it, this isn't that hard. They're having a challenge. Whether they don't want to do it, they rather be playing with her friends or whatever's going on in that moment, as you are about to take an action or say of word, before that happens, or even right as it's starting to bubble up your heck, even in the middle of it. I would invite you to use your life pro strategy pause just for five seconds in your mind. This all happens all the way in just a few seconds, pausing one breath. Connect to the feeling. I'm feeling frustrated, I'm feeling whatever it's. Identify what it is it's going on with you, taking that unconscious thing that's going on thousand miles an hour and slowing it down into a level where it's like you can see it, like all there it is, breathing into it, reconnecting to the body, reconnecting to what's happening, and just opening up to that feeling, if that's frustration, instead of trying to stop the frustration and stop the moment and stop the behavior in the kid...

...or whatever at work, whatever is going on, you open up to you open up to the experience of being frustrate and all this sounds like crazy wisdom, but I'm telling you, this works. You Open yourself up to it instead of running or closing yourself from it. As you do that, you are teaching yourself to be in the moment. You're teaching yourself to handle more information that's coming through, whether that's emotions or thoughts or dextist overall human experiences, as you open up to it. And you can tell me if you found the opposite to be true. But what I've found, in what I've tell others to do, is it when you open up to something, it reduces the resistance it creates. Instead of a block, it creates a flow. And once those things are flowing through, if they don't seem to bother you as much and you seem to have a clear insight, a clear understanding of how to navigate life more and become closer and closer to the person that you're proud of. So what I would like for me, if you can't, I'm curious from you, before I tell you the practice, what works for you to kind of comeback centered. Is it meditation? Is it yoga?...

Is it something that's similar to this but a little different? Let me know in the comments below. I love to hear from you. Now here's the practice that I would invite everyone to do and involves whether it's on a phone or your watch or whatever you've got going. It's just setting a reminder every day to encourage yourself, whatever the time in the middle of the day, to just reecope, to pause, reconnect and open to the human experience. What I would devise you do is just set a timer, maybe once or two times per day. What I tend to find best is in this every time. I'd be different for you, is usually there's a time in the day where I'm in the middle of the grind. You know what I'm talking about. This just like the flow of the days, and it's too probably the area of the day that I'm the most unconscious and just kind of an autopilot. At that point happens to be just around one PM for me, whatever time it is for you. I set a reoccurring reminder on my watch or on my phone every single day to buzz me at one PM and...

...say P R oh, pause, reconnect, open, and that's just the little invitation, a little nudge from my higher self to my automated self, going hey, knocking on the door of my greater self, going hey, pass just take a breath right now. Just reconnect to the moment, open yourself to what you're feeling. Is there any tension going on? Nothing, cool. Let's get back into it. Oh wait, there is something going on in the unconscious world that I want to kind of just bring to light. So the words, the idea on the practice here is don't let stuff build up on you. Don't want stuff accumulate to the point where just like explodes and comes out of you. Well it. It's kind of an old flash, but check yourself before you wreck yourself. Right. Get a practice going where every day you can tune in, dial in so that these things that that run us in the background, as we stopped running from them, they can no longer run us. So, guys, I hope you found some value in today. If you learn something or again, one of the...

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